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Couples Therapy
You might feel hesitant to sign up for couples therapy, and worried about opening up a "whole can of worms". If the discussions (or dare we say, arguments!) you've been having at home make you feel hopeless, alone, scared, you probably don't want to sign on for more of the same. You might be worried that couples therapy is just one more space for criticism or hurt. We work very hard at The Hub to get it "right".
Our Approach
Couples therapy shouldn't be traumatic. Our psychotherapy team is well-trained to ensure that couples therapy is, first and foremost, safe and supportive for all involved. At The Hub we practice couples therapy modalities such as Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), the Gottman method, and sex/intimacy support from the PLISSIT model. With any of these approaches, here's what the therapist can do for you:
1. We set firm boundaries about behavior in session. Your therapist will not allow yelling, name-calling, aggression, or any other abusive behaviors to occur within the session. We are trained to de-escalate and support both parties to feel as safe as possible.
2. We are committed to working towards specific goals and outcomes. Couples therapy is not simply a place to vent frustrations and deepen the wound. At the outset of couples therapy we will decide on goals together (e.g., improved communication, deeper connection, healing from a betrayal) and will work towards that goal actively through structured conversation, exercises, and homework.
3. We want to hear from all partners equally. At The Hub, we don't believe in "playing the blame game". It takes two to tango, and more importantly, it takes two to make it work! This means that our therapists take the time to hear both partners' stories and needs, and your therapist is equally committed to both of the individuals in the relationship. Our goal is to help improve the relationship, not find a "bad guy". If one partner is monopolizing the airspace, our style is to call that out and make space for all!
4. We work within your comfort zone, culture, and beliefs. Every therapist at The Hub knows how important it is to provide therapy that works within the couple's culture, religion, and family beliefs. Your Hub therapist will never pressure you into an approach that isn't a fit, or suggest a resource that is culturally inappropriate.
5. We work from a strengths-based approach. We know there was a time in your relationship where you were happy, in love, and kind to each other. We believe you have the strengths and resources to get back to that place again! Rather than focusing on what's going wrong or each partner's flaws, we are committed to focusing on the unique strengths you have in order to rekindle the relationship. We know you've been trying your best and that you are fundamentally a good person - and sometimes everyone needs a little bit of compassion and understanding to be their "best self" in relationships!